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Sunday, October 21, 2012

What does a Program Director do all day?


My intention behind spending a day with people in their jobs is two-fold.  I hope to gain some perspective on the reality of various jobs and learn about people’s journeys that got them to their current place.  With any hope, you may get a glimpse into a world you may not have known, and/or you may discover an insight that may help you when looking down your own “yellow brick road.”  Let’s get our ruby slippers on!

Renee Moseley, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), is the Program Director at Bridge Meadows and a great friend of mine.  Last week, I wrote about an adoption ceremony that took place at Bridge Meadows, which is an extraordinary intergenerational housing community.  This week, we get to begin our exploration from jobs to journeys with Renee as my first "shadowee."  I am in Renee’s debt for how much of herself and her day she shared with me.   I had an amazing time and am now the biggest ambassador for Bridge Meadows because of her work.  Thank you, Renee.

Fluidity required

Renee Moseley and her infectious smile
c. Brooke Van Roekel
Some people smile from their head, some from their heart, and some people smile from their whole being.  Renee is one of those people who smiles from her whole being.  I swear, her smile comes from the inside-out, and she is quick to laugh which creates an ease for everyone around her.  It cannot be underestimated how crucial this is when intentionally building community, which is what Renee is doing every single day.

Being the Program Director at Bridge Meadows requires being a Tai Chi Master.  No, not really.  It does, however, require an ability to go with the flow, to channel people’s energies and move them in a positive direction which is not always an easy task when you’ve got 67 people who come from very different backgrounds and experiences and range in age from a few months to 89 years old.  There was one word that first popped into my mind when I observed Renee’s day – fluid.  It can also be used to describe how Renee handles her day – with fluidity and much grace and patience.



How does Renee describe her job? 

She sees herself as a liaison for the residents to help them get the services they need.  One resident deemed her the “Flow Facilitator.”  She runs 2 structured activities a week, which are ‘support’ circles.  The Wisdom Circle is for the elders and The Circle brings together the elders and adoptive and pre-adoptive parents.  A number of organizations like to volunteer their time and/or services, so Renee spends a lot of time coordinating those opportunities for the residents.  She keeps them engaged and working as a community, which takes intention and careful thought.  After two hours, I was wondering if it was break time!

Bridge Meadows is a very unique model and differs from the traditional social work model because Renee is in the community members’ homes.  She is a much bigger part of their lives than just having a private client relationship where she would see a client for an hour a week.  In fact, when a photographer volunteered himself to take family photos for the residents, a few kids asked Renee to be in their family portrait.  That is how important she has become to many of the residents.  She is a part of the family at Bridge Meadows.

What does her day look like?

9.30am
Renee shares an office with Derenda, the Executive Director
c. Brooke Van Roekel
Renee typically starts her day around 9.30am because she often times stays late to spend time with the residents in the evening.  For the first couple of hours, she focuses on her emails and phone calls needing action.  These are with the residents, various agency partners, other non-profits, case workers, therapists, and even the property manager.  Truth be told, she isn’t terribly fond of sitting at a desk doing emails.  She much prefers being up and engaging with people, which is good since that is what the majority of her day is spent doing.

10.30am
Renee met with the volunteers who were decorating the community room for the adoption ceremony.  Her role in this was to help them organize, provide a bit of direction and understanding of the flow of the ceremony and how that might impact their decorating.  As mentioned last week, it was a flurry of activity – much like one would find before a wedding.  So much to do and so little time!

12noon
She ran a few errands before the party in the afternoon.  (Ok, truthfully, she took her brother and sister-in-law’s dog to the doggie day care because it was going to be too long for little Ruby to go without being taken outside.)

1pm
Lunch with me and my 20 questions.  (That’s an understatement.)  During our lunch, the property manager popped her head in the door and asked about food quantities for the adoption ceremony.   She had some concern that there wasn’t going to be enough which led to the decision that she would go get a few more pans of lasagna.  Problem solved.  (These are the problems and issues that crop up throughout the entire day and where Renee exhibits that extraordinary grace and patience with each and every one.)

2pm
Renee took me on a tour.  We got 5 feet when we were stopped by one of the residents asking a question about the party.  We made it another 20 feet when another resident approached Renee about yet another question relating to the party.  Renee did try to run to the restroom, but was stopped by yet a third resident asking about an incident the previous night.  Did I mention the need to be fluid in this role?

2.30pm
Meeting with Dr. Derenda Schubert, the Executive Director, and a few MBA students conducting interviews for an award in Oregon that Bridge Meadows had been nominated.

3.30pm
Final prep for the party was under way, and Renee met the photographer and videographer who were going to be capturing the event.  She directed them where to set up all the while little kids were running around, she was checking one little boy’s homework, and an elder was bending her ear about an issue with another member of the community.   (Patience is a virtue, and Renee has it in spades particularly at moments like these.)

4.00pm
Special guests (board members, account directors of other non-profits, case workers, etc.) started to arrive and Renee and Derenda took turns greeting them while answering the periodic question from a youngster usually asking when they could get a piece of the cake. 

From 2 years old to the elders,
Renee engages all
c. Brooke Van Roekel
4.20pm
After a bit of a delay because the judge got stuck in traffic, the ceremony began and Renee could sit back and enjoy it. 

5.15pm
The ceremony concluded, and there was much interaction with all of the residents, the special guests, and the judge.  Renee was grabbed in a few different directions – even being asked to take a few family photos.
All in a day's work!
c. Brooke Van Roekel

5.30pm
Renee took a few of the guests on a tour of Bridge Meadows 

6.15pm
Helped to tidy up, checked-in with a few of the residents, and sent a few necessary emails.

7.45pm
Was able to get in her car and head home.  Whew!

I have highlighted the phenomenal amount of patience that appears to be needed for a role like this.  What I saw in Renee was more than patience; it was presence.  What struck me the most was how she brought that to every interaction – regardless of how impromptu they were. 

It is very common to hear people describe their jobs that no two days are the same.  For Renee, I can attest to the fact that this is indeed the case.  She is dealing with 29 elders, 27 kids and 11 parents.  There are a whole lot of dynamics in that mix and when you add the support agencies and other resources involved, she is indeed a “Flow Facilitator.”

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Next up, we’ll start to learn about Renee’s journey and how she came to be a LCSW and came to be at Bridge Meadows…It’s filled with all kinds of fun twists and turns!




Monday, October 15, 2012

The Power of We in community

This blog is about what people's day jobs actually look like along with their journeys of getting there.  It was my journey that led me to Renee Moseley, LCSW, the Program Director for Bridge Meadows and where I got to witness one of the most meaningful expressions of the 'Power of We.'  I will get to Renee's journey and what her day looks like in the next post, but today, the Blog Action Day, I would like to pay tribute to an extraordinary community that is living the 'Power of We.'

Courtyard at Bridge Meadows
(photo credit: Brooke Van Roekel)
A little bit of background on Bridge Meadows

Bridge Meadows is an intergenerational housing community where "foster youth find permanent homes, adoptive parents find support to raise healthy families, and elders are able to re-engage in a purpose-filled life." (Bridge Meadows collateral)  In short, it is doing something truly amazing in Portland.  It is intentionally creating community and support systems across multiple generations.  Children who have been in the foster care system find permanence with their adoptive families and the elders get a sense of meaningful purpose.  It was modeled after Hope Meadows, outside of Chicago, and Treehouse, in Massachusetts.

Living at Bridge Meadows

The library at Bridge Meadows
(photo credit:  Brooke Van Roekel)
Bridge Meadows has 9 homes for adoptive families, 27 apartments for elders (55+), a community room, a computer room, a community garden, and a surprisingly well-stocked library.  Renee told me that they had over 3000 books and couldn't even display all of them.  One of the conditions of living at Bridge Meadows is that the elders must complete 100 hours of community service each quarter.  This can entail taking another elder to the doctor, watching an adoptive parents' little ones for a few hours, tutoring the children, and many other activities.

Bridge Meadows is fortunate enough to be blessed with access to terrific resources.  When I was there last week, a nurse was holding office hours that the elders could sign-up for.  A member of the community wanted to donate her time to offer Tai Chi.  The previous weekend, a photographer donated his time and talent to take photos of the families.  The children got to decide who was in their family.  Because of the strong community that exists, some children identified 20 people!  That's just the kind of place it is and the kind of community they are fostering.

The 'Power of We':  A New Family is created

The day I spent with Renee was a very special day at Bridge Meadows.  An adoption ceremony was taking place.  I hadn't fully processed what this would entail, but when I got to witness it, I was incredibly honored to be there.  One of the members, a single woman, was adopting three children.  Instead of performing this ceremony in a courtroom, where it traditionally happens, it was arranged to take place in the community room at Bridge Meadows, in front of all of the residents, the whole family at Bridge Meadows.

The Community Room decorated for the ceremony
(photo credit:  Brooke Van Roekel)
The community room was decorated like it was a wedding, and the flurry of activity in preparation was very much like a wedding.  Table cloths and flowers sat on all of the tables.  Streamers, balloons, and 'CONGRATULATIONS' signs decorated the walls.  The adoptive mother* had set up a table that had a guest book for people to write their well wishes and a framed collage of photos of the entire family (as the kids had been living with her since May).  There was even a big cake.  Yum!  Everyone was abuzz with anticipation.

What made this ceremony so special was how intentional it was and the thought that the mother had put into it.  It was an amazing display of creating meaning with this very significant event for everyone.  The young boys, her two sons, were dressed in button-down shirts and ties, and her daughter was wearing a bright pink dress, very special dress that I suspect may have been bought for just this occasion.  All four of them, along with the judge, stood at the front of the room.  Mom opened the ceremony with a song to her kids.  Beautifully singing Jason Mraz's song, "I won't give up" a cappella, the tears started flowing from everyone in the room.  The judge performed all of her duties, making the pronouncements of the adoptions and signing all of the necessary paperwork - the documentation of the adoption and the birth certificates.  After that, the mother had given each of her children a bag of colored sand.  As each child poured their sand into a jar on the table, Mom read what the color represented and the qualities that each child embodied, and there was a color for her, too.  This was the blending of their family becoming one.  She then presented a medal to each of the boys and a necklace to the little girl, a symbol of her commitment to each of them and a reminder of the strength they each possessed.  The tears really never stopped throughout the whole ceremony.

The room and the community erupted with pure joy and elation when everything was final.  The celebrating could begin.  Pans of lasagna were brought out along with baguettes, and everyone began to dig in.  There were hugs, tears, and smiles from everyone.

They say that it takes a village to raise a child.  This is a community that is doing just that.  It is a community that believes in the Power of WE.

Next week, you'll get to hear Renee's amazing journey and the incredible work she does each and every day.

*Out of respect for the new family, I have purposefully omitted their names.